I$ Being in @ ReL@tiOn$hip That ImPorTaNt??
I’m sure that anyone single dreads this moment. Afterall, it seems that everyone else(by that I mean the attached/ the elders) seem to think that by asking the, "Do you have a boyfriend? / Are you in a relationship?" question, us singles would just drop everything, go out, find a ’significant other’ & live happily ever after.
I remember when I was younger, all I could think about was how I was going to be attached & married by the time I turned 18. When I turned 18, I wanted to be married by 21 & then 23 & then 25…you get the idea.
Being a malay girl does not help in this situation. Every living relative starts to direct the question to you the moment you start working. You can expect this to happen at all family functions, be it a wedding, a gathering, even a funeral (yes, I’ve had aunties ask me at an actual funeral!) They don’t ask you in a nice way either. One of my all-time favourites has got to be, "Aiyah, kau ni dah lah gemok..abih da tua..kalau tak cepat-cepat kawin, nanti orang tak nak..baru kau tau!!"..basically, when translated means that now that I’m fat & older, if i don’t get married quickly, I’d be left on the shelf…sigh…& people ask me why I keep saying I’m fat?!
Honestly, I have nothing against getting attached or even married. I have plenty of friends who are in happy relationships. I’m happy that they found their partners but what I don’t like is someone telling me that I should be married(with the exception of my parents.They are entitled!) just because it’s expected. What if I want to be single? What if I just want to live life the way I want to? Come on, there has got to be more to life than just being attached.
Who knows? I might just wake up one day & decide that I do want to be married but I don’t see this actually happening in the near future. For now, I just want to live.
