My Life So far..

Last Sunday, I went to my first punk show ever. 

My friend, Lee & his band(Yohanes, Adam, Yuko, Kenn, Li Bo & Jeff) were the opening act for Brain Failure(pretty well known in the Ska scene here in Beijing).

What I found surprising was the fact that I actually enjoyed the show!  It was a bit loud but hey, it was a good kinda loud.  They had done a cover for "Careless Whisper" & I was blown away!! Damn good I tell ya!!!!Bravo!!

Have a Trophy, guys!! Better yet,  have 2 trophies!!

Last Friday, I met up with a friend of mine, Shin, in a pub of sorts called "Black Sun".  Now, I’ve been there a few times already & usually, Shin & I have a good time just chilling out, winding down over a few drinks. But never have I ever been picked up by a guy.

So anyways, we were just sitting at a table just in front of the pool table(I getto play for free,yay!!)when a group of black guys walked in.  They sat at the table next to us & started to play pool.

Now, my friends know that I like pool.  Sometimes, I’m good at it.  So, I just started watching them & carried on my conversation with Shin.  After about 15 mins, one of the guys sat down & just smiled at me.  Look, I’m a polite person & I’ve always believed that if a person smiles at you, the polite thing to do is..Smile back!  Eventually we ended up talking to each other for a couple of minutes( you know,"So what do you do in BJ?How long have you been here?" etc.) By then, Shin had to leave so I just stuck around cos I haven’t finished my Long Island Iced Tea..

To cut the story short, the conversation we had went somewhat like this:

BG:(in a very strong Nigerian accent) Hey babe, I’ve been eyeing you since I came in.

Me: Oh really?

BG: Yah, so…are you chinese?

Me: Umm, no!!Why, do I look Chinese to you?

BG: Well no..No Chinese girl has your body…You have the perfect African body..

Me: Umm,well, thanks!

BG asks me about what I do, do I like Beijing etc..a few minutes later:

BG: Hey baby, would you like to join us? We’re gonna go dancing..I noticed you moving ya body & you look like you wanna.

Me:(finished up my drink & picked up my bag) Nah, I’ve had a long day. I’m gonna go now..

BG: Aww,baby..u sure u don’t wanna join?

Me: Yeah, I’m sure.  Nice meeting you.

BG: Let me just walk you out aite.

Let me just say that I’d had 4 Long Island Iced Tea within 1 & half hours on a pretty empty stomach(well, I had some fries) & was feeling a bit woozy by then.  So when BG asked for my number, it didn’t occur to me to pass a bogey number.  So I rattled out my number, said my good byes & got into the cab.

Here comes the ‘fun’ part.  Within the hour, BG sent me 2 messages.  "Great meeting u babe" & "Hope you have a good nite’s rest baby" .   That is ok..Next morning, I got 3 messages plus 1 call from him..I pretty much ignored them.

By now, I’m freaking out..I’m like "WTF?!?!?!" Is this normal?!?! A friend of mine just told me to be real direct & tell him outright that I wasn’t interested so I did.  So when BG called, that’s what I did.  I told him that I wasn’t interested & that if I was EVER gonna be interested, I’d let him know..

What he said was & this really started to bug me a whole lot:

"Why u doing this baby? I really like you. I want you as a girlfriend, not a fling….yadaa yadaa.." I just don’t wanna remember the rest…ergh…

To date, I’ve received atotal of 13 sms-es plus 4 calls from this guy.  Heh, I must give him points for persistence but hell, he needs to just chill!! He’s scaring girls away!

By the way, I do a mean imitation of the way he spoke…"Hey baby"…

I’m sure that anyone single dreads this moment.  Afterall, it seems that everyone else(by that I mean the attached/ the elders) seem to think that by asking  the, "Do you have a boyfriend? / Are you in a relationship?" question, us singles would just drop everything, go out, find a ’significant other’ & live happily ever after.

I remember when I was younger, all I could think about was how I was going to be attached & married by the time I turned 18.  When I turned 18, I wanted to be married by 21 & then 23 & then 25…you get the idea.

Being a malay girl does not help in this situation.  Every living relative starts to direct the question to you the moment you start working.  You can expect this to happen at all family functions, be it a wedding, a gathering, even a funeral (yes, I’ve had aunties ask me at an actual funeral!) They don’t ask you in a nice way either.  One of my all-time favourites has got to be, "Aiyah, kau ni dah lah gemok..abih da tua..kalau tak cepat-cepat kawin, nanti orang tak nak..baru kau tau!!"..basically, when translated means that now that I’m fat & older, if i don’t get married quickly, I’d be left on the shelf…sigh…& people ask me why I keep saying I’m fat?!

Honestly, I have nothing against getting attached or even married. I have plenty of friends who are in happy relationships. I’m happy that they found their partners  but what I don’t like is someone telling me that I should be married(with the exception of my parents.They are entitled!) just because it’s expected.  What if I want to be single? What if I just want to live life the way I want to? Come on, there has got to be more to life than just being attached. 

Who knows? I might just wake up one day & decide that I do want to be married but I don’t see this actually happening in the near future.  For now, I just want to live.

Well, once again, work brings me back to Beijing.  I will not explain what I have to do here cos just about everyone knows & I find it very,very irritating to have to keep on repeating the reasons why.

Yesterday was pretty uneventful.  I got picked up at the airport by the staff & they brought me to my new "accomodation".  When I have to chance, I’ll post the pictures but I really don’t wanna at the moment cos just seeing the place makes me feel real depressed.

I haven’t done anything much at the new place but I do know for certain that whenever possible, a minimal amount of time wil be spent in that place.